Thursday, September 18, 2014

DIY Area Rug Results/Tips/Pictures

Alright guys. The results are in. Here's the low down on spray painting the rugs!

I called in the troops (my best friend who is basically my sister, and her sweet sisters which also feel like mine!) I truly am not crafty and I usually end up spending tons of money for projects that look like my kindergarteners completed. So I wanted to make sure we really got things figured out. (If you missed the earlier post, check that out first.) Here is what we learned, in no particular order:


  • First, I will only ever do this project with other people. That is, people I like to be around. On the technical side, it is nice to have helping hands to measure, tape, etc. On the un-technical side, it takes a few hours so you will want the company.
  • Rust-o-leum 2x Ultra-Cover (Paint + Primer) is the best spray paint to use. Other spray paints will work but you will end up spending more money because it will take more paint. Getting a semi-gloss finish will make cleaning up stains down the road a bit easier.
  • We used the old fashioned painters tape like the tutorial suggested. It worked okay and I'm not sure if there is anything better to use BUT, a few of us ended up with some spray paint lines where they shouldn't have been. (pictures below) So next time, I will make sure the tape is reeeallly on there firm and good.
  • The measuring and taping is the most tedious part but it's worth it. It was easier to lay the tape straight once we started marking the stripes with chalk. Just a few dotted lines to guide you. Also, cute Aimee used tissue paper she had on hand rather than the craft paper. It worked just as well (newspaper would work fine) and is one way you could save a few bucks! (Make sure you overlap them so no paint gets in between.)
  • Try to coordinate your carpet color with the paint colors. For example, if you are going to use white paint, find carpet that is a lighter shade. It will be easier to cover and will save you money in the long run because you won't have to add a million coats of paint.
  • Buy more paint than you need. You can always take the extra back but it is a pain to stop halfway through and make a run to the store. (FYI: I liked the taupe color of my rug and chose to just add black stripes to it. I used 3 cans of black Rust-o-leum and that covered a 6x8 rug.)
  • The fumes will be a flyin! (Not a bad idea to use a mask!) At one point, we were all rolling on the floor giggling over everything because the fumes had seriously gotten to us and we all left with headaches. 
  • Spray paint from every direction to ensure you cover each side of the carpet fibers.
  • The final cost depends on you! My 6x8 rug was about $18 from Home Depot. I used 3 cans of paint which totaled about $13. I would say plan on a price range of $35-$60. (Depending on how many colors you want)




(This was about the time we started to get um...woozy.)



(My rug placed under my dining table. You can see what I mean about those black smudges. I am thinking about adding one tiny stripe to each black and making each one a different, bright color. Magenta, turquoise, lime green, etc.)

                         (Erin's cute rug for her kitchen. The lime green she used was DARLING.)

                      (Aimee's rug for her kitchen table. Her stripes were crisper than mine, which I liked.)

                              (Maranea's yellow and cream rug for her kitchen. So bright and happy!)

My overall consensus is that this project is totally doable for even the most challenged DIYer! (aka me) The cost itself makes the project completely worth it because seriously, who wants to spend $200+ on a rug?

Now go get yourself some carpet and email in your pictures! I am excited to see what kind of patterns people create, as well as helpful tips and tricks that worked for you! {forallmomkind@gmail.com}

Tuesday, September 16, 2014

DIY Area Rug

Guys.

Rugs are too dang expensive

Which is a problem because I am too dang poor.

I am doing this project tomorrow and can't wait to see the outcome! I will keep you posted...
(a huge thanks to Craft Remedy for making this possible for DIY disabled people like me!)

Friday, August 22, 2014

How to Teach Your Child to Be Popular



Summer is coming to an end, which means our conversations are changing: from pools to pencils, hot sun to homework, and barbeques to books. Our focus, as parents, is to make sure our children are ready—ready for a new curriculum, with new school supplies and clean clothes.



But there is one topic of readiness that seems to be skipped: is your child socially prepared to go back to school?

From a child’s immature point of view, social success can be summed up in one word: popular. Only, our society has put a negative label on the word. We tend to think that popular kids are the best dressed, best looking kids at school and, therefore, they are mean, catty, and self-absorbed, right? I say wrong.

Everybody knows that person who seems to make friends everywhere they go. I would describe them as popular. Having “popular” children provides a great opportunity for them to set a positive example and to gain a network that is very socially diverse. With that comes the chance to influence others for the better. So, when that moment presents itself, is your child prepared to rise to the occasion?

Here are 5 ways to teach your child to be popular:

Sunday, March 16, 2014

All Quiet on the FAMK Front

Maybe you have noticed that it's been half a month since we last posted - and you know what, we're sorry! But not super sorry because our main business is conducted on our Facebook page anyway. Besides, both Lyndsi and I are well into our third trimesters of pregnancy while wrestling the two-year-old results of our first pregnancies and frankly, we just don't have the time that we used to. One day things will settle down and we'll post more regularly - but for now, keep on supporting your fellow moms by answering questions on our Facebook page, and if you're interested in a few laughs you can follow us on Instagram: @forallmomkind.

If neither of those options are good enough for you, why not consider guest posting for the blog? We love to hear from other moms! Seriously, think about it. You would be so good at it.







Friday, February 28, 2014

How to Make Friends // Married with Kids



A little while after we moved to our new home in North Carolina, I had a bit of a breakdown. It might have been partly pregnancy hormones, but I sat sobbing, cross-legged on the bed with my husband tickling my back as I told him my sad, sad story of not having any friends. This, of course, wasn't entirely true, but I sobbed for a good hour about it anyway. I asked him between nose-blowings why people didn't seem to like me, why no one would give me a chance, why I was so hard to be friends with anyway - heaven knows I was trying! It was all so pitiful. So embarrassingly pitiful that I apologized to my husband like ten times during this hour of sobbing. I knew I was being ridiculous to some degree (thus the suspicion of hormones) but I just couldn't help feeling lonely. So I decided I wasn't going to spend the next three years as a sad sack - I was going to do something about it. After lots of observation, trial and error, I have put together a list of 5 essential tips for making friends when you're married with kids:



1. Lose Your "Resting B$%&# Face"* 

You've heard of it, right? I promise I didn't make it up. It's the face you make when you're not making any face at all. If you want to make friends with strangers, you have to consciously think about what your facial expressions are saying to them. I know for a fact that my resting face makes me look super grouchy, because people ask me what's wrong with me so often. I've had to really practice lifting my eyebrows, turning the corners of my mouth slightly upwards, and smiling with my teeth instead of just lips. People want to be friends with people who have a pleasant look about them.

*somehow this doesn't apply to guys. huh.


2. Cut the Crap

Even when we lived in Utah we didn't have a whole lot of friends. Our friends were our family, so we didn't feel the need to go out and socialize. But there was one particular acquaintance that basically shoved her way into our lives, bringing her husband and baby with her - and looking back on that today, I'm so grateful she did! She is one of those people that just knows everyone and everyone loves her. And even though we were sad to leave them behind, there was a family just like them waiting for us in Carolina. People like them don't beat around the bush. If they like you, they'll invite you to hang out. They'll give you second, third, fourth, fifth, sixth and seventh tries if they want. They don't seem to worry about whether or not they're "being annoying" or "coming on too strong" or whatever other games people tend to play when developing new relationships. If you want to make friends fast, you have to take charge. 

3. Take Chances

It doesn't matter if someone is much older or younger than you, has more or less money than you do, or seems to have completely different interests, you never know who is going to end up being a lifelong friend. If you restrict yourself to those in your same life situation, you will be disappointed - because nobody has the same life situation. Broaden your horizons! 

4. Big Talk

If you're looking to not waste any time at all, you might as well skip over the small talk. Now, this can be risky - but again, you have to take chances. And sometimes big talk is the thing that can solidify a relationship between people who have no common hobbies or interests. If you start the evening with the question, "So, what's your stance on Obamacare?" You can avoid dancing around potential friendships that would ultimately end up crumbling apart anyway.

5. Include the Kids

Even if you don't have kids, if the people that you want to be friends with do, understand that they're not always going to be able to run out and find a babysitter every time you want to hang out. Beggars can't be choosers, and if you're desperate for friends you should be more than willing to be accommodating. Of course, "adults only" date nights and activities can happen, and are super fun, but make sure you plan them well in advance. As annoying as kids can get, a parent will always choose their family's best interests over their friends. 


Basically, the age old adage holds true: If you want a friend, be a friend. You can't just hang around waiting for people to reach out to you all the time - if you want friends, sometimes you're going to have to pick up the phone, initiate the conversation, and extend the invitations into your home. 

Wednesday, February 19, 2014

Why You Are the Most Judgmental Mom You Know




When my little girl was born, I was very fortunate to be able to stay at home with her for a year. I loved it but when people asked me what I did, I suddenly realized I possessed the amazing gift of mind reading. Yup, you heard me. I could read their minds. When they found out that I was a SAHM, they started wondering to themselves what I did all day. They assumed that I just laid on the couch watching re-runs of Grey’s Anatomy and sipping on Diet Coke. (Except for that hour during the day when the maids come because that’s when I would leave to go shopping.) I would read articles and blogs on how people think stay at home moms don’t do anything but really, it’s the toughest job in the world. They would offer up suggestions on how to deal with those judgmental people…and I would feel a little better.

When my little girl turned 1, our student loan bills started rolling in and it soon became time for me to go back to work. Enter: those pesky mind reading abilities. NOW, when people asked me what I did and I told them that I am a teacher they started assuming what kind of a mother I was. They guessed that I was a career driven woman who is selfish to leave my child. I only cared about bringing in a pay check and having nice things to the point that I am willing to let her be “raised” by someone else. So again, I found myself reading articles and blogs on why it is okay to be a working mom and again, they would offer up suggestions on how to deal with those judgmental people…and I would feel a little better.

But here’s the really odd thing.

When other moms would tell me about their situations, whether they be a SAHM or a working mother, I didn’t think twice about it. I didn’t find myself assuming anything about them, good or bad. Their situation just is what it is in my mind. And come to think of it, I had rarely heard other women commenting about what they thought of stay at home moms and working moms.

Here’s another odd thing.

When I would tell my close friends and family about my mind reading abilities, they assured me that they had never thought any of those things about me.

Hmm…

Do you see where I am going with this? The greatest common factor in these different equations always came out to be the same thing.

ME.

I think I have mentioned my goal for 2014. So here’s an idea. How about we start with ourselves? How about we start giving OURSELF as mothers the benefit of the doubt and stop assuming that people care so much about the choices we make?

When that happens, you may just stop being the most judgmental mom you know.

Monday, February 10, 2014

3 Reasons I Probably Won't Tell You My Baby Names



At 27 weeks, I am pregnant enough that friends, family and random strangers feel comfortable pointing it out and asking me about it. One of their first questions is always, "What names are you thinking about?" and it always puts me in a sort of awkward situation because it's not really something I want to talk about. So I squirm and fidget and mentally analyze whether or not they are the kind of person to be offended by a blunt "Nunya Business." But ultimately I end up saying something like "No names at all! Can you believe it?" or giving a watered down excuse as to why I'm not going to tell you.

There are many people that don't understand why I don't want to talk about it, and for those people I present to you this:

Reasons I Don't Want to Talk About My Baby Names


1) "Hey! That's the Name of..."

When I was about two months pregnant with my first child, my husband and I decided to do something fun with all the names we liked - we made a March Madness bracket and handed one to each of our family members to fill out. It turned out pretty well, but I wasn't prepared for the onslaught of "Ew, you like that name?" and "Hey, I know like three kids named that" and "That's the name of my grandma's dog / favorite sports team's mascot!" While none of them meant any harm by their comments, it was then that we decided we'd rather not tell anyone the names we were thinking about for any of our subsequent babies.

Maybe it's just a personal issue, but I hate hearing that my favorite names are everyone else's favorite names, too. I don't know, it might go back to my childhood - where kindergarten through my senior year I was known as either Jess C. or Jessica C. (I've confronted my mother a number of times about my name, and to this day she swears she didn't know that Jessica was the number one most popular name from 1985-1993)


I guess I can forgive her for "not knowing," and so if it turns out my child's name becomes super popular it stands to reason I can expect the same level of forgiveness from them... right?


2) "Oh No, You Don't Want Him to Go Through Life As..."

Sure, I was just as guilty of it as anyone else, but for whatever reason people have the natural inclination to "protect" your unborn baby from any undesired name that they, themselves, have deemed undesirable. They do this by voicing their opinions loudly and proudly while your baby is still in utero. Funny enough, when your little bundle finally arrives screaming and pink into this world they seem to quietly keep their opinions to themselves. Because, gosh, don't wanna offend the cute little guy.

And let's not forget all the people that feel it their duty to come up with the terrible nicknames your baby's future elementary-aged peers are bound to come up with...



3) It's Not Your Name, Your Kid, and Frankly, it's None of Your Business

When our first baby was born, he didn't have a name for a few hours. We spent that time pouring over him, kissing him, counting fingers and toes and wondering who he would grow up to be. We decided early on not to pick out his name until we saw him. We had a handful of name ideas, but we wanted his name to fit him perfectly. We wanted him to own his name, to come into the world and declare to us with his little personality, "I'm Jonah!"

Of course, this drove some of our family members crazy, and some even accused us of knowing the name and keeping it a secret just to spite them - but eventually we realized that it's not anyone's business but ours what or when we name our baby. It's a pretty special, sacred experience; birth. It's no time to be worrying about what anyone else thinks.